Conclusion!

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In the end, the conclusion is that the first step towards becoming a successful leader you must have the quality to be a quiet and good listener. If you do not have patients to listen to others then you cannot in anyway convince or gather people to listen to your own thoughts. If you are a active and good listener then you are already at the second phase of been successful. Listening to others is not a easy and simple task. Infact it demands patients and activeness to understand the thoughts of others and then giving your own feedback once they are completed explaining.

Ways to improve listening skills

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Target we should be occupied with the message the other individual is sending. It is amazingly difficult to be absolutely open since each of us is unequivocally uneven by the greatness of our past experiences. We offer aiming to the messages based upon what we have been taught the words and pictures mean by our gatekeepers, our mates and our teachers. Banter with someone from a substitute culture and watch how they offer expecting to words. Then again another listening test is to listen open and impartially to a man with through and through various political or religious feelings. Will you do that? Really? It is great if you can, however for the most part couple of people can tune in, understand and recognize such messages which are through and through not the same as their own. If you can't, the time has come to start in light of the way that as a pioneer you ought to appreciate a broad assortment of evaluations on much of the time faulty subjects.

Understanding in the same notion in which speaker wants to explain!

Proper Focus is result of good listener and there are many ways to focused on speaker. My personal example, know the why and what speaker is going to speak, these two things in mind can make proper concentration and speaker and we will know that when speaker Is going to take pause or when he/she is going to ask question to listener. Some speakers says “right” after the lines that they are expecting response from listener. Empathy is the way to stand in same position of speaker`s position. In other words listener should understand the feelings and situation of speaker, listener don`t have to become like speaker but at least should stand speaker`s position so that we can easily understand main motive of speaker`s speaking. When something is unclear or you are not understanding then it`s better to ask question for clarification but in a good way. As an instance, “Pardon me” and be aware of your biases. We are given two ears, but only mouth because god knew that listening was twice as hard as talking.

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The effective way to listen?

The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. Body language is crucial part of communication for speaker and listener as well. First of all, eye contact with speaker is very important because when listener look at other things rather than making eye contact results disrespect and demotivation for speaker. Furthermore, technical distractions, good listener always avoid mobile phones or other movements around their environment. When third person wants to speak to you then it is important to continue conversation with same person and hold other person. Face expression is also play significant role for a good listener, as an example I say “I see” “yes” or nod my head or smile while listening the speaker and try not to give expressions such “hmmm” or don`t sighs because these are signs of disrespect and speaker always expect respect and positive signs from listener.

what is listening?

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Being a good listener can help us to see the world through the eyes of others. It advances our comprehension and grows our ability for compassion. According to my personal opinion first of all we should listen with an open mind and listening mentally. In other words, we should listen without any distraction or proper concentration on speaker for perfect understanding and judgement. A good listener always listen carefully and not interrupt speaker while he/she speaks. Moreover, positive response to speaker is also vital for good communication skill. As an example, while I speak with someone and they give positive response that build my confidence and consider them as good listener. However, sometimes some listeners makes me uncomfortable when I take pause and they interrupt me during so listener should have patience during communication. It is well said of our ancestor’s speak in such way listeners love to listen you and listen in such a way speakers love to speak with you.